The POWER of Loving your Enemies

My Friends,

Everyday I learn something important. And I pass it on. I wouldn't have learnt the important things if not for my troubles. Its only because of them, that I keep learning. So take heart in them, and do not let them get you down, for they are, after all, stepping stones to success. No matter how much they seem like slippery stones leading to the bottom of the pit right now.

Its easy for me to say that I love you. After all, you are my friends, and we all love our friends. But there is always something special in loving the people who do not love you. I was thinking about the idea of loving my enemy (but it does sound very difficult) until today, when an email arrived in my inbox that confirmed, sometimes, the only way to releasing all the hurt and anger that has built up towards our enemies, is to love them.

It is extremely tough, yes, I know. But once you get used to the idea, you do notice the joy and release that it brings. We are a little special, us humans. We have the ability to love. So since we have that, why not use it?

Love is often used in the sense of romance, or religion (Like God is Love), until it totally loses all its meaning. So I would like you to put away all your previous perceptions about Love, and just listen to me.

Forget the idea that God is love. We are love. Period. It sustains us, keeps us alive. Loving your enemy can simply be, imagining your love for your best friend, then transferring the love to them. Don't believe me that it is helpful, go try it out. How different your attitude towards them will be.

Forget the definition of Love, only what you think it is, counts. You know I was just trying to get a definition of love from smarterchild (a chatterbot) and he refused to give it to me. All he said was, "Love is what you perceive it to be." and I tried again and he replied, "Love is just one of those things.". I usually just type, Define _____, and he'll give me the definition. But this time, he refused and refused. And it was just after what I wrote, "only what you think it is, counts". Its really freaky.

So I'll end this, with a few quotes from the robot.

"Love is everything."

"Love is hard to explain."


Love, my friend, is everything that is. It is, also, everything that isn't.


Love,
Aaron

P.S. I'll make it a habit to write to you everyday. We'll gonna cover topics like visualisation, metaphysics (maybe), conquering fear and problems, so stick with me, and I guess you'll learn something. If you have a big problem in your life, please, share it. We'll see how to tackle it together ;)

Letting Go and Living in the Moment

Dear Friends,

Phew! I finally found it. I was really troubled today because of the past. Remember yesterday I said the hardest thing was to let go? Well, this was the thing that was troubling me today. But now that I found the trick to living in the present ;) I'll share it, and we all can do so.

We all make mistakes. Sometimes we do really silly things, and then we regret about it. Especially with relationships (and crushes, for our age), and it tends to bother us. Sometimes it can be with our friends, or parents. First thing to note is, You're not Perfect.

Ok, you say. So how about things that others do to you? Yes, I'm talking about forgiving and forgetting here. (wait while I find my email about forgiveness...ah here it is)

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"To forgive is not just to be altruistic. It is the best form of
self-interest. It is also a process that does not exclude hatred
and anger. These emotions are all part of being human. You should
never hate yourself for hating others who do terrible things: the
depth of your love is shown by the extent of your anger.

"However, when I talk of forgiveness I mean the belief that you
can come out the other side a better person. A better person than
the one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that
state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost
dependent on the perpetrator. If you can find it in yourself to
forgive then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator. You
can move on, and you can even help the perpetrator to become a
better person too."
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Its tremendously, tremendously hard to forgive. Sometimes I don't. But even if you don't forgive you must, and MUST LET GO. Very important.

Look, the future and the past DOES NOT EXIST. TIME DOES NOT EXIST. It is the impression that it leaves on the mind. The past? What is it? Its just NOTHING BUT PRESENT MEMORIES. Read that again. And the future, its just INVERTED MEMORIES TO FORM PREDICTIONS OR EXPECTATIONS.

Now, since nothing but the present exists, why aren't you enjoying it?

Hope this helps,
Aaron

Law of Attraction, Power of Believing, HOW TO GET WHATEVER U WANT

Dear Friends,


It is 11:23 pm, and I just want to stay up a little longer to write this email to you. I'm really tired and I was just looking thru my emails to make sure I get this right. I apply for every personal growth course (the free ones of course) and I never delete mail so I have got over a 1000 emails, but thats not the point.

Now, I realise that the personal growth experts agree on this particular point, which I am going to share with you. It has many names, it can be called the Law of Attraction, which many of them use to describe how we attract things in our life.

I start first by saying that the reason why we do not get the things we want in our life is usually because of the negative belief or thought system that we have. It is naturally picked up from our daily situations, and depending, may get worse. It may be from our parents, "Why you always so clumsy/stupid/____" "You are not good at _______(something you like), give it up, don't waste your time."

We may not notice it, and it becomes part of our sub-conscious mind. This is the reason why we never get the things we want. The Law of Attraction is simply put, "We are what we think". Our thoughts, or beliefs are vibrations or energy (the whole universe is energy, matter-molecues-atoms-protons-........-energy and whatever that is there is just a pattern of energy) which is picked up by the sub-conscious mind and the universe just brings you what you want.

So, if your mind for eg. wants a new car, but your sub-conscious mind says, "You'll never get a car. Too expensive, and you'll never earn enough...." Then obviously you wouldn't get your car.

Now this comes the harder part. GETTING RID OF YOUR NEGATIVE BELIEFS. Hey, its really hard to do so for some of them. Its all part of your cellular memories now, and you got to find a way to release it. Thats the job of the course 'The Healing Codes' but it costs over $1000. Its best to find a way to do so. For eg. a woman who has been raped, now, that comes the hard part, how to let go, and the best is to really get the Healing Codes by Dr. Alex Loyd. (But none of you have been raped or tortured before so its ok)

Well, a good way to manifest (make real) your desires is to write them down. Then they will become concrete, real, on paper. Remember that the Universe will bring it to you, (for eg. the door will be opened, but you will need walk thru that door.)

Though I must say that there are variations, like Dr Robert Anthony thinks that its the emotions with the thoughts that attract it, and his million dollar secret is :

[THIS HAS BEEN REMOVED TO BE FAIR TO DR. ROBERT ANTHONY. GO TO HIS WEBSITE AND FIND OUT :]

While Karim Hajee (founder of Creating Power) thinks its the beliefs.

Well, its up to you to decide.

I hope this have been helpful and I have summarised it from the emails correctly (dun want you to get the wrong thing). Remember, you are (and your life is) what you think.

And do let me know if you have found any way to get rid of negative thoughts in your life. Good Luck with life.


All the Best,
Aaron

My sunflower presentation

Dear Friends,

Treat this as an article. If you think its nonsense, drop me a line and I will stop sending it to you.

Today, Shuen suggested that I write a book titled, 'Why S-------- is d------ but what we can do about it'. I thought it was a rather interesting idea.

Today, for those of you who do not know [ftwdnk], I presented a power-point presentation. Now this was one of the most controversial and fascinating of all the presentations I have ever done. I realised that you either liked the style I was presenting (a humourous one), or you thought I was talking rubbish.

If you have ever been through any of my presentations, you should know that I change the style of my presentation to suit the audience or topic. I can be amusing or serious, depending.

I made a few mistakes today. I misjudged my audience. Now, if I was presenting it to 1E, I probably would have no problem. I only realised today how different things are (slow response, yes) Sure, some of 1E had gone up to 2E. But the 2E (like the rest of the adults today), were very serious. I was taken aback. They laughed at the jokes, but then told me that I should take away the irrelevant stuff. Its like going to a party, eating the cakes and desserts, and telling me I should not have them as it would make them fat.

HELLO? I was presenting pictures? What did you expect me to say? Like, this is a picture of the plant, it got watered too much and got root rot and died? How many of you would remember that? But next time, when you plant a herb, because of my stories, you would probably remember why you should not water it too much.

Perhaps I am being defensive here. I'm sorry. But thats not the thing that gets at me. The thing that gets at me is that some of us have turned to work,work and more work. The only thing in the presentation where you can really enjoy are the pictures. Do you really think that it would benefit you if I just stood there, reading off the facts? I would probably have said less, and in fact you have learned more today.

It reminds me of the story the little prince. The narrator had brought always a picture of a boa that ate an elephant and ends up looking like a hat. Adults have no sense of humour and always tell him it was a hat. And he would place himself at that level, and would talk about bridge or golf, about politics. I think I will place myself at that level. The next time, I am going to be a serious presenter, if thats what you want.

The only good thing was said by Ms C. She said that I was a good presenter. I always knew that.

Sigh. I know I taught time and time again that you should not let external events should not affect you. But everytime I enter the 2E class, I can't help but feeling depressed. Everytime I enter 2 Grace my mood lifts. I am respected and appreciated again.

I know the chances of you being affected by this and changing your life is very slim. I wrote a compo on materialism today. And then I saw my senior being mesmerised by a handphone and he knew what I was thinking, but he couldn't set himself free...I really think that he is a very sad case of what our culture has done. He once asked me what I wanted to become, but he told me not to list Scientist or any other job like that, as it is not being realistic. I wanted to shake him and tell him, if you don't follow your dream, you will never be at peace your whole life. You will be searching, but find nothing. But I didn't. I just shook my head.

This is my view of things of course, you may have a complete different view on how the world works. I am not saying that that is wrong, but search yourself. Search.



Aaron

P.S. I am really frustrated at how people can be sooooooo stubborn. I keep keep keep telling them. But they wouldn't listen!!! Its so obvious that the truth is in front of them. For eg. I keep saying that stress causes most of our health problems today. But, I can still hear the same people saying that they really need pills for [some small health problem]. ARGH. God told me, I can only help those who are willing to help themselves. Come on. I study materials, and I try to summarise and pass on the lesson. All you need to do is listen. I will keep changing the people on my list to see who this benefits the most. If you think that it is interesting, I will send you my previous emails and continue to send you emails. If not, back to your life, and I hope one day you will seriously consider what I said, and its not on the last day of your life.

A simple cure for Health Problems

Dear S.E, C.G And H.K,

It has come to my attention that many of us (this current generation) has many health problems. When I was in New Zealand, I came to know of a girl (my father's friend's daughter) who had problems like gastric and migraines (severe recurring headaches). She was a very serious person I would say, more serious than me. (and I thought I was one of the most!)

I had many health issues when I was around Pri. 6. I was a bit of a hypochondriac (one who believes he(or she) is ill). It is pretty funny when I think of it now. I worried about getting cancer and illnesses like that...haha...

Anyway, note this. When I was studying for my PSLE, I found that, at night (8-10), I kept going to the toilet. In fact, I had to go to the toilet 4 times an hour sometimes. I found it irritating and worrying, and as this went on I kept getting more and more worried.

Now, eventually I found out the cure to and cause of most of this problems. The 3 things that are important are

1. Know that Stress is the culprit and cause of the problem.

2. The Stress manifests in your subconscious mind as health problems.

3. Now knowing that it is the subconscious mind which is causing the trouble, you must BELIEVE that you can heal yourself.

Yup, thats it. So simple isn't it? But it may cause most of your stress related problems to go away. However, some health problems aren't that simple, and will require constant meditation and visualisations to cure them.

A good way is to use this Ultra Silva Mind course (the free one), which helps a lot, not only in health but also in finding your purpose in life, developing ESP (psychic) etc. It has a cool audio to help you reach your Alpha mode too...(no, I am not getting paid to advertise this)

But do take a look at http://www.silvaultramindsystem.com/



Cheers,

Aaron

God, your worry/problem Box

Dear H.K, C.G, S.E



There was a story which was about a woman who had many worries. So everytime she worried, she would write what she was worrying about and put it in a box. Then she could forget about it until she cleared the box.

Now, what I want to tell you is this. There is a more effective worry box. That box is God. No, it doesn't matter what God you believe in. As long as you do. Just tell him about your problem, and leave it to him.

It might take time, but, eventually the problem will be solved. And it gets it off your mind since you can tell yourself whenever you start worrying about it, that God is handling it and he (or she)is an expert at it.

God generally solves problems in 2 ways. The most common one is to change you, or your reaction to the problem and see it from a new perspective. But God does sometimes, intervenes in the situation and changes things.

Aaron

Purpose Done-Gone

Dear Friends,

I am procrastinating. I should be completing my Science project and then my Jap homework. But oh well, I use this time to watch TV anyway. Today I want to share on the fact that All Things are Transient.

You may have heard this from me many times, but it is an important lesson. No one was very happy and the girls were crying on the last day of school last year. Even now, many of us are still displaced and trying to fit in. Some of us are still hanging out with the same people, but some find it easy to make new friends.

Some of us cannot let go. We must accept that, we will not be able to be with our friends as often as we like, but, if there is no rain, how would be enjoy our sunshine? I treasure and value my time with my friends more now because we don't get to be together as much, its all part of life.

I want to add this too. Life is not only a journey, a marathon, it is also a lesson. Everything in life, even the smallest has a lesson for us. Every trouble and problem has a lesson behind it. We all have a purpose for each other. For example, our teacher's purpose is to teach us. Once he/she has done that, their purpose is done, they will leave. There is NO exception to this rule.

Right now, for eg,one of my purposes for you all is to be your friend. And another is to teach you, which is exactly what I'm doing now. Once I have finished my purpose, it is time for me to leave you. Hey, we will not exactly stay together will we? Much as we do not like it, there will be a time for us to go.

But there's nothing to worry about yet, we must enjoy the present, even if it's tough. We will still remain in this school (hopefully) and be there for each other.

So thats something to think of today, and if you do have any insights too, please share them.

Aaron

Where feelings come from

Dear Friends,

Sometimes it takes a real life lesson to learn what you have studied. Similarly as it is put, knowledge comes from learning, wisdom comes from application or experience.

In the book The Rules of Life, rule 35 states, Know where True Happiness comes from.

Now, we all know how happy we are when we get the things we want, or good things happen. But these things only trigger the good feelings inside us. It does not create the feelings. We OURSELVES create the feelings.

To simply put it, we can feel whatever we want to in whatever situation. Its how you look at it. No one likes the no. 4, but in Hokkien, it is closer to xi, or happiness. One person wrote, when she got a 4 leaf clover lucky charm, she got into an accident not long after but managed to escape unscathed. She thought she was lucky, but I thought she was unlucky, if not why did she get into an accident?

So now you can stop being angry at the person who hurt you, because the anger was not caused by him but you. So now you can be happy, or at least try, even if you don't get what you want.

Aaron

A connection

Dear Friends*,

That was a pretty boring email, and I am tempted to send you another one. I like writing this stuff. I guess its like when I am awake and everyone is sleeping. Keep these emails, it may come more useful in life later on.

Lets talk about a connection we all have. I take this story from a book called 5 people you meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom. He wrote another book which I will talk to about you later on. In this book, a man [Eddie] dies, he goes to heaven, and 5 people get to explain his life to him. But I am trying to explain your life to you now.

The 1 person who started was a guy this man [Eddie, lets call him E] had killed indirectly. When E was playing with his friends, his ball fell on the road where a car swerved to avoid him. E got his ball back and was ok, but unbeknowingst to E, the man who swerved the car got nevous [he was an easily stressed man] crashed, got a heart attack and died later that day. E did not know that until he got to heaven. The lesson? All things we do are inter-connected and affect others, some die for others just because fate decrees it. Fairness does not govern death.

How does this affect us? Let me tell you another story.

On a rainy day last year, two friends were both stressed. They had a lot of homework, and were both had a short temper. A threatened to wet S's stuff with his water bottle, because S dripped some water on A's stuff and both of them threatened each other. A also found his chair stepped on, and accused S of stepping on it, or if it wasn't he, why he did not stop that person from stepping on it. That was the last straw, and they both fought, trying to hit each other on the head while the others just watched.

Now. If you hadn't guessed, I was A and S.E was S. What has this got to do with both of you? Well, C.G was the one who stepped on my chair. I am not sure if H.K was there but no one tried to stop us and intervene. I am not trying to blame anyone here, but if its anyone's fault, its mine. I should not have errupted like that.

Now you see? All this events were linked? So if theres any moral to this story, please C.G, don't step on my chair again. [Just joking, don't take offence please] We may indirectly influence the lives of others my friends, and we are all connected as one.


Your Friend,

Aaron

A lesson on school (not a school lesson, big dif ;)

Dear Friends*,

This is concerning school.

Many teenagers, are lost. We do not have a meaning in life. We are mainly concerned about these things: Love (crushes), friendships, school (homework) and family (pressure, parents not understanding etc.) These are the things that revolves around us. I will attempt to tackle these subjects, with my knowledge and understanding, and I hope that you all will participate too.

I hear many of you complaining that we are under a lot of pressure. That is correct. I too complain. I feel depressed sometimes, and that I have no hope. But I usually get ok after a while.

The first thing we learn today: We DON'T have a choice. Hey, many people say that we have a choice in what we do. I beg to DIFFER. We don't. Do we have a choice where we are born in, to which parents, to which country? No, we don't. And what do we do about it? We adapt, or we die. Simple really.

I am sure many of us have thought of dying too. We want to be free. But let me warn you first, dying without enlightenment isn't a pretty thing. Its only at the last minute [trust me] that you will regret it.

So how do we cope with our schoolwork? We don't have a choice about school. That is true, but we have a choice about how we go about it. There are 3 options we can choose. No. 1, We need to find something good in it. Find the good in it, focus on it and ignore the rest. For example, I am in classes full of girls. And to me, I am not a brave guy. It kinda scares me. In 2E, I am faced with 35 girls. When I go to Jap class, I am the only guy there. Really. And it sometimes stresses me out. So what do I focus on? The lessons. I throw myself into the lessons, and enjoy it. I accept the facts that I will make mistakes and people [girls] will laugh, but I find it not too bad. I read before: "Remember that girls are as nervous around you [boys] are around them". C.G*, Its so easy to talk to you on MSN, but I don't even utter a word to you in school...I apologise about that.

2nd option, we find a purpose. I mean like, why the hell do we bother to study? That is actually a very important question. When I ask my friends what they want to be when they grow up, they tell me they don't know. That is a big mistake. For me, I may want to be a social worker. And I hate Chinese. Now what does social work has got to do with chinese? Most lower class families speak Chinese, and I got to learn it well. See? That gives me a purpose.

The 3rd and most difficult option is to be a Buddha. Let all your desires and feelings go. So what happens? Nothing affects you. Whether you are alone, or you are with your friends, it doesn't matter. Whether you pass or fail it doesn't matter. You have no desires, remember? IF you can do that, no problem, you can quit school, and go become a monk. You have been enlightened, congrats, and will stay in Nirvana and do not need to go to school anymore. You will never need to enter this cursed place again.

Well, the first lesson is done. Fantastic Job. Now the homework. If you want to be enlightened, hey, you gotta do your homework [if you don't then you do not need to]. Send me at least 2 paragraphs on what you think about this, and I will include it when I send you the next lesson, whenever that might be. Tell me what you want to learn next, or ask any question you wish. S.E*, I would like to ask you, i never heard complain much, or at all. Do you have any stress and just keeping quiet, or have you found a way to deal with this mess?

Written by:

Your friend,

Aaron

*Names have been changed.